A SHORTER "DAY'S JOURNEY" May 1986 By David Rieff. Sure. The early years of Sontags marriage to Rieff are the least documented of her life, and theyre a little mysterious, leaving much to the imagination. Straight talk to blacks and whites about the realities of racism. (Examples: the philosophical aphorisms of Lichtenberg and Novalis; Nietzsche of course; passages in Rilkes Duino Elegies; and Kafkas Reflections on Love, Sin, Hope, Death, the Way.). The standard time between diagnosis and death is nine months, and there are no drugs that work more than a few months to keep your blood counts where they're supposed to be. I didnt say anything. Sontag did not want to be an academic; she wanted only to write. Mosers story of the good-looking young ex-faculty wife/Ph.D. It is a book about dying, grieving and what it means to survive the death of a loved one. She wanted to be lied to. Women in particular talked about her enormous cultural significance. She had no problems telling me that, Greg Chandler, an assistant of Sontags, had no problems telling Moser. "Heady?" Features. He was a commander in the Armenian army in Nagorno-Karabakh fighting Azerbaijan during the First Nagorno-Karabakh War in the early 1990s.. Melkonian left the United States and arrived in Iran in 1978 during the beginning of . Of course, some people of faith find it easier. In Praise of Forgetting: Historical Memory and Its Ironies 160. by David Rieff | Editorial Reviews. No, I don't think so. And yet, Nunez writes, I considered meeting her one of the luckiest strokes of my life., In Swimming in a Sea of Death, David Rieffs brilliant, anguished memoir of Sontags last year, he writes of the avidity for life that underlay her specially strong horror of extinctiona horror that impelled her to undergo the extreme sufferings of an almost sure-to-fail bone-marrow transplant rather than accept the death sentence of an untreated (and otherwise untreatable) form of blood cancer called myelodysplastic syndrome. It's a weird thing in this age of the Internet. Did not telling her the truth about her condition take a toll on you? "Way to never give upBelieve & Achieve!! Vanity Fair Archive. Of course she knew who was opening the door. !" It's too obvious not to be true. He was Philip Rieff, a twenty-nine-year-old professor of sociology, for whom she worked as a research assistant, and to whom she stayed married for eight years. But you know there will be future biographies of Susan Sontag. I think it would have been grotesque of my mother to have become a person of faith purely in the interest of consoling herself. In her feisty debut book, Oluo, essayist, blogger, and editor at large at the Establishment magazine, writes from the perspective of a black, queer, middle-class, college-educated woman living in a "white supremacist country." The daughter of a white single mother, brought up in largely white Seattle, she sees race as "one . That Norman Mailer has orgies? And she was somebody who desperately didn't want to die. Lauren Bacall., I loved Susan, Leon Wieseltier said. But she made it very clear what she wanted. A lot of what I describe in this book has nothing to do with the particular personality of David Rieff, or the particular personality, let alone celebrity, of Susan Sontag. If Mosers feelings about Sontag are mixedhe always seems a little awed as well as irked by herhis dislike for Philip Rieff is undiluted. My mother was a prodigy as a child. She was a best-selling novelist and a singular presence -- the brainy, glamorous woman who held her own among the testosterone-filled intellectuals of the period. Illness as Metaphor (1978), her polemic against the pernicious mythologies that blame people for their illnesses, with tuberculosis and cancer as prime exemplars, was a popular success as well as a significant influence on how we think about the world. She was fully aware that she would not have had the life she had if he had not taken her under his protection when he did. : Simon & Schuster, 2005, 288 pp. Do you think it's not an accident that the area you carved out for yourself as a writer -- going to war-torn countries and covering foreign affairs -- was very different from what your mother wrote about? I've also met lots of people who aren't. . It is an unholy practice, the telling of a life story that isnt ones own on the basis of oppressively massive quantities of random, not necessarily reliable information. If there's one thing I'm vain about, it's that I'm willing to stare facts in the face. I was told by her doctors that she would die quite soon. Fortunately, I don't keep my journals. Cremation seemed to confirm extinction. Susan was very interested in being morally pure, but at the same time she was one of the most immoral people I ever knew. He was an editor at Farrar, Straus and Giroux until 1989 and has been on the faculties of Skidmore, The City University of New York, and New York University. So I don't buy it. The New Yorker may earn a portion of sales from products that are purchased through our site as part of our Affiliate Partnerships with retailers. A protector was needed, and he appeared on cue. She applied for and received a fellowship at Oxford, and left husband and child for a year. . It wasn't long before Nunez moved in, beginning what would be a complicated relationship with both Sontag and her son. At seventeen I met a thin, heavy-thighed, balding man who talked and talked, snobbishly, bookishly, and called me Sweet. After a few days passed, I married him, she recalled in a journal entry from 1973. It's indisputable, as you say, that that's what brought her to national and then international attention. At fifteen, she wrote in her journal of the lesbian tendencies she was finding in herself. I put six questions to David Rieff. David Rieff is an American non-fiction writer and policy analyst. The wonderful doctor and writer Jerome Groopman likes to quotes Kierkegaard that life can only be understood retrospectively but has to be lived prospectively. In the literary world, their relationship was a source of fascination: of envy for writers who longed for a protector as powerful and loyal; of gossip for everyone who speculated about what the relationship entailed. Was it a heady experience to get that kind of attention for a boy at your age? That doesn't seem right to me. You write that it wasn't just that she desperately wanted to live, she was also terrified of dying. 3 David Rieff, "The Cult of Memory: W hen H istor y Does More Harm Than Good ", The Gua rdian, March 2, 1916. People have different temperaments. So she was going to do everything she could to survive. One of our more tiresome national cliches holds that the Irish can never forget while the . You call her book of photos -- which included pictures of your mother as she was dying and after her death -- "carnival images of celebrity death." The dauntingly erudite, strikingly handsome woman who became a star of the New York intelligentsia when barely thirty, after publishing the essay Notes on Camp, and who went on to produce book after book of advanced criticism and fiction, is brought low in this biography. And she was just a sore. Once she died, I asked the other people in the room to leave. Sontag was accused of humorlessness, but in fact she was guilty only of high-mindedness. Author: David Rieff. In any case, Tima himself saw neither the Novi Sad massacre nor Auschwitz. They had sex on several occasions, in hotels. The best intentions, however, can be broken on the wheel of skillful (or even inept) interviewing. . They are specks on it. He is not above quoting interviewees who saw fit to question Davids devotion to Sontag during her horrible last year. Sontags pencilled notes in a banal brochure of the Leukemia & Lymphoma Society inspire Rieffs reflection on that astonishing mix of gallantry and pedantry that was one of her hallmarks. He notes my own grave failings as a person (above all, I think, my clumsiness and coldness). The voices of the two characters fuse in a terrifyingly assonant duet. Well, I'm an atheist too; if anything, more militant than my mother. She took more pleasure in the world than I do. He also edited her journals and notebooks, which contained the following rules. One day, she had had enough. Mosers biography, for all its pity and antipathy, conveys the extra-largeness of Sontags life. Roger Deutsch, another friend, reported, If somebody like Jackie Onassis put in $2,000for a fund to help Sontag when she was ill and had no insuranceSusan would say, That woman is so rich. A bit of self-importance may be involved: the interviewee is flattered to have been asked to the party. I have a library anyway. Moser in no way substantiates his claim. You say your mother had a horror of cremation. It was important to have that on the record. The book gives the illusion of life that good novels doan illusion that no novel of Sontags was ever able to achieve. But that doesn't mean that was what was most valuable about her work. I have a habit -- a superstition, really -- of not calling people I'm close to while I'm on an assignment that could be dangerous. Statistics for all 11 David Rieff results: 48 yrs AVERAGE AGE 29% are in their 40s, while the average age is 48. And then she died. That seems just right. How many times have I reviled myself for that, which is only a little less offensive than my habit of name-dropping (how many times did I talk about Allen Ginsberg last year, while I was on Commentary?).. By David Glenn. She fought her illness to the end, implicitly asking those closest to her, including her son, to lie: She didn't want anyone to tell her she was dying. He published every one of her books. He, knowing that the treatment has almost no chance of succeeding, tells her what she wants to hear. Reproduction of material from any Salon pages without written permission is strictly prohibited. "I am not a confessional person," Rieff insisted. But it does raise the question: Without the consolation of religion, does the prospect of dying lead to dread? Treacherous, Eva Kollisch, a pissed-off girlfriend from the sixties, tells Moser, as if she had been expecting his call for half a century. Why people capture imaginations is a mysterious process. Sept. 9, 2007 12 AM PT. To go with the lack of furniture, there was a lack of decorative objects, there were no curtains or rugs, and the kitchen had only the basics. Besides his wife and son, of New York, a journalist and author who specializes in foreign affairs, Dr. Rieff is survived. But for the first time, their love affair is laid bare, as Sontag's son David Rieff admitted: "They were the worse couple I've ever seen in terms of unkindness, inability to be nice, held. Jan 2000 - Dec 201516 years. But all the decisions about her burial are decisions that I made, trying to think through what I thought she wanted. She became the model of an intellectual woman who had both great flair and moral profundity. And Katie Roiphe also thought of royalty when she wrote of tall and elegant David Rieffs slight air of being crown prince to a country that has suddenly and inexplicably gone democratic. The mother and son bear a strong, not entirely physical, resemblance to each other. But why she became so celebrated, what the combination of elements were -- her public role in the anti-Vietnam movement and other political events; her looks -- I'm sure it was a complicated combination. It's all at UCLA. Do you lie? We recommend . By David Rieff. And he drops this bombshell: he claims that Rieff did not write his great bookSontag did. Coming out is at issue, in fact. David Rieff (/rif/; born September 28, 1952) is an American non-fiction writer and policy analyst. Nunez, in her memoir, set in the Straus period, wrote of the Riverside Drive apartment: Its main feature was the growing number of books, but they were mostly paperbacks, and the shelves were cheap pine board. David Rieff. But he says, I am anything but certain that I did the right thing, and, in my bleaker moments, wonder if in fact I might not have made things worse for her by endlessly refilling the poisoned chalice of hope., In the end, Rieff realizes that the story he is telling is about ends, the brute fact of mortality. Sontag was not alone in her bafflement about extinction. It turned out that if she wanted to try something rather than palliative care during the last months of her life, there was one possibility. The celebrated writer demanded honesty of intellectuals -- Rieff says she loved reason and science "with a fierce, unwavering tenacity bordering on religiosity" -- yet maintained a willful delusion about her death. 80% MARRIED 80% of these people are married, and 20% are single. I felt that I had to do that, whatever my own opinion was. It's just prurient as far as I'm concerned. In Mosers world, rewrite becomes write. (en) dbo:wikiPageExternalLink Rieff, in his introduction to the second volume of the diaries (As Consciousness Is Harnessed to Flesh), writes that Sontag tended to write more in her journals when she was unhappy, most when she was bitterly unhappy, and least when she was all right., Nunezwho comes across as modest and likablegives us wonderful glimpses of Sontag when she was all right. apple.news. She beat cancer in the 1970s, and again in the 1990s, but third time around she wasn't so lucky. ), this time focusing on the global food crisis. Prophet of the 'Anti-Culture'. What I've left out, people will be able to go to UCLA and read. But I'm fairly certain I would not have published them. When she came back she put David to bed and then she said, Guess what? Your mother was an iconic figure in intellectual circles, not just because of what she wrote but how she looked and acted. I hope it has some relevance to people who've never heard of Susan Sontag, let alone of me. It was in the spring of 2004. Why do you think she gained that stature? Sontags love life was unusual. Swimming in a Sea of Death: A Son's Memoir is published by Granta, 12.99. But I can't control how people read a book. There was. He merely believes that a pretentious creep like Rieff could not have written it. Although Nathan did not adopt Susan and her sister, Susan eagerly made the change that, as Moser writes, transformed the gawky syllables of Sue Rosenblatt into the sleek trochees of Susan Sontag. It was, Moser goes on, one of the first recorded instances, in a life that would be full of them, of a canny reinvention.. In Swimming in a Sea of Death, Rieff confesses that my relations with my mother in the last decade of her life. By the time of the marriage, in 1951, she had discovered that sex with men wasnt so bad. Moser accepts her grievances at face value and weaves them into his unsparing narrative. David Rieff: His mother "was no more reconciled to extinction at 71 than she had been at 42." Sigrid Estrada When she was diagnosed with cancer for the third time, the writer Susan Sontag. She followed Rieff to the places of his academic appointments (among them Boston, where Sontag did graduate work in the Harvard philosophy department), became pregnant and had a then perforce illegal abortion, became pregnant again, and gave birth to her son, David. There was much she could have done, and gay activists implored her to do the most basic, most courageous, most principled thing of all, he writes. She refused to accept any consolation from the hope of an afterlife. There are certainly religious traditions that don't believe in an afterlife. She did more things in the world than I do. But that's impossible if you decide not to acknowledge the fact of dying. . That's above my pay grade to say. I have the impression that this is the way your mother had to die. I knocked on the door. She was happy to trade in her jeans for silk trousers and her loft apartment for a penthouse. It was. Refresh and try again. Penguin to publish "classic" Roald Dahl books after backlash. Both a memoir and an investigation, Swimming in a Sea of Death is David Rieff's loving tribute to his mother, the writer Susan Sontag, and her final battle with cancer. Nunez, who was twenty-three-year-old David Rieffs twenty-five-year-old girlfriend and lived in the apartment with him and Sontag for more than a year, stresses that the time Im talking about was beforebefore the grand Chelsea penthouse, the enormous library, the rare editions, the art collection, the designer clothes, the country house, the personal assistant, the housekeeper, the personal chef., Nunezs short book (its a hundred and forty pages) raises the ethical question that Nunez herself must have wrestled with: Is it ever O.K. In his account of Sontags worldly success, Moser shifts to a less baleful register. They divorce in 1958. by David Rieff, David Reiff ( 24 ) $13.99 In a shocking and deeply disturbing tour de force, David Rieff, reporting from the Bosnia war zone and from Western capitals and United Nations headquarters, indicts the West and the United Nations for standing by and doing nothing to stop the genocide of the Bosnian Muslims. The child of the alcoholic is plagued by low self-esteem, always feeling, no matter how loudly she is acclaimed, that she is falling short, he writes. I'm not Solon the law giver. What I'm saying is that the right way for one person to die may not be the right way for another person to die. His second wife and widow Alison Douglas Knox died December 12, 2011. [2], Rieff was a senior editor at Farrar, Straus and Giroux from 1978 to 1989. By pushing the child Susan away and at the same time leaning on her for emotional support, Mildred sealed off the possibility of any future lightheartedness. You could set the record straight. Moser also quotes from a manuscript he found in the archive which he believes to be a memoir of the marriage: They stayed in bed most of the first months of their marriage, making love four or five times a day and in between talking, talking endlessly about art and politics and religion and morals. The couple did not have many friends, because they tended to criticize them out of acceptability.. Explore David Rieff Wiki Age, Height, Biography as Wikipedia, Wife, Family relation. The book publisher had received criticism for removing passages related to weight, mental health, gender and race. This is not a portrait of Rieff's relationship with Sontag, though at one point he refers to their "strained and at times very difficult" relations. He said, "If you want to fight, if what matters to you is not quality of life" And my mother said, "I'm not interested in quality of life." A new biography of Susan Sontag is set to claim that the American writer was the true author of her first husband Philip Rieff's seminal work Freud: The Mind of the Moralist.. Out in September . In February, 1960, she lists all the things that I despise in myself. Left to my own devices, he writes, I would have waited a long time before publishing them, or perhaps never published them at all. But because Sontag had sold her papers to the University of California at Los Angeles, and access to them was largely unrestricted, either I would organize them and present them or someone else would, so it seemed better to go forward. However, he writes, my misgivings remain. Now republished by New York Review Books, it was first released just weeks before its author's early death in 1969. CAREER: Farrar, Straus & Giroux, Inc., Features Lord of the Ring November 1996 By Gay Talese. But I know it's preposterous. What I discovered was unexpected,. To revisit this article, select My Account, thenView saved stories, To revisit this article, visit My Profile, then View saved stories, Two volumes of Susan Sontags diaries, edited by her son, David Rieff, have been published, and a third is forthcoming. Why is she going to pick up her son? About six square feet of kitchen space were taken up by an old freezer that hadnt worked in years. If friends cannot control their ambivalence, what about the enemies who cannot wait to take their revenge? She said she might be ill again, might have some kind of blood cancer. So what do you do, as the person who's close to someone who wants to live at any price, when you think this fight isn't worth it? 4 Benedict A nderson, Imagined Communities: Reflections on the Origin and Spread . I don't think that's a particularly strange or masochistic thing to say. In "Swimming in a Sea of Death," Rieff wrestles with how to be a dutiful son to his dying mother while being true to himself. So it's wrong for me to read into this that you wish you had put some of your own needs aside and accommodated your mother more? Because I don't think it's anybody's business. Her novel The Volcano Lover (1992), a less universally appreciated work, became a momentary best-seller. D avid Rieff Granta, 16.00 IN TRYING to pay a fitting tribute to his mother, Susan Sontag, David Rieff offers a partial and self-centred account of her final years. When I asked her about one of her early critiques of the novel, in which she wrote, "I could not stand the omnipotent author showing me that's how life is, making me compassionate and tearful," she called that comment "juvenilia," and said, "It's really hard to be nailed to what one wrote 35 or 40 years ago." [2] He could be terse when fielding questions about his relationship with his mother, and he became angry at the notion she suffered a "bad death." Rieff did sociology on a grand scalesociology as prophecydiagnosing the ills of Western society and offering a prognosis and prescription for the future. . Rieff, Philip 1922-2006 PERSONAL: Born December 15, 1922, in Chicago, IL; died of heart failure, July 1, 2006, in Philadelphia, PA; son of Joseph Gabriel and Ida Rieff; married Susan Sontag, 1950 (divorced, 1958); married Alison Douglas Knox, December 31, 1963; children: (first marriage) David. Married Alison Douglas Knox, December 31, 1963. I do wish that. But there isnt much of a living in the kind of things that she wrote. Another answer is that if I had her journals in my possession after she died, and they were simply mine to dispose of as I wished, I don't think I would have published them. November 19, 2015 Letters From the December 7, 2015, Issue Quantum of. David. The idea that one good death fits all seems incredibly reductive to what human beings are all about. When the diaries resume, it is in a mood of settled frustration with the misalliance. By the time of Susans birth, in 1933, he had his own fur business and was regularly travelling to Asia. All public knowledge, to be sure, but who the hell am I to go advertising other peoples sexual habits? tell funny things) in his presence. I agree with you entirely that she captured the imagination of a certain time and became famous, and then I think did really good work and backed it up. People visiting for the first time were clearly surprised to find the celebrated middle-aged writer living like a grad student. Yeah, it's an even more lethal cancer, and yeah, she's even 30 years older, but maybe she'll beat the odds." PARIS The decision by the U.N. Security Council and NATO to end military operations in Libya on Oct. 31 concludes what appears to be the most . Of course, he intends to be discreet, to keep some things to himself. Death disinhibits the. It's a long shot: an adult stem-cell transplant, a bone-marrow transplant. Certainly, this doesnt reflect well on Rieff, but it hardly proves that Sontag wrote The Mind of the Moralist. Mosers interviews with contemporaries who knew that Sontag was working on the book dont prove her authorship, either. By David Rieff Trade Paperback LIST PRICE $18.95 PRICE MAY VARY BY RETAILER Get a FREE ebook by joining our mailing list today! They're stand-alone projects. Although he was not a Christian, his work remains a great gifteven if a complicated and . They are what you could call her years in the wilderness, the years before her emergence as the celebrated figure she remained for the rest of her life. That doesn't mean someone else who was there would agree with my account. But I didn't want to write a book about my relationship with my mother, about her relations with other people, or a literary account of her work. The chances were indeed stacked against her. She knocked on the door, and who opened the door? Both a memoir and an investigation, Swimming in a Sea of Death is David Rieff's loving tribute to his mother, the writer Susan Sontag, and her final battle with cancer. By contrast, it would seem that your mother had anything but a good death. If you have a grave and your bones are there, it's somehow less confirming of extinction. "My mother was a leftist," he said. There is no question David Rieff is the most famous & most loved celebrity of all the time. Sontag married Rieff when she was 17 and left him seven years later. His books have focused on issues of immigration, international conflict, and humanitarianism. In fact, she sometimes went further, claiming to have written the entire book herself, every single word of it. I took this to be another one of her exaggerations.. Also learn how He earned most of networth at the age of 68 years old? But she didn't want to hear it. Yet every signal she was giving me was, "Give me hope. As David Rieff points out in his illuminating study, In Praise of Forgetting: Historical Memory and Its Ironies, by 2045 the last survivors of Nazi atrocities will be dead. . 1952 David Rieff is born in Boston, Massachusetts, the only son of Susan and. The mother pleads with the son to tell her that the excruciating treatment is worth enduring because it will save her life. I will write prefaces to these journals, which will contain biographical material, and a future biographer may find them somewhat useful. Rieff was educated at the Lyce Franais de New York and attended Amherst College as a member of the class of 1974, where he studied under Benjamin DeMott. Rate this book. As far as the relevance or importance of her work in the context of the long history of literature and criticism, I think history will sort that out. . When you say "grace," it lets family members off the hook. 1950 Sontag marries Philip Rieff, a young teacher at Chicago, after a 10-day courtship. There was tremendous intellectual affinity between Sontag and Rieff. We know no one in life the way biographers know their subjects. How many of us, who did not start out with Sontags disadvantages, have taken the opportunity that she pounced on to engage with the worlds best art and thought? People write what they want to write. Can you tell me about your mother's last days? The most important thing I thought was: It's her death, not mine. There's no gushing between mother and son or deathbed reconciliations. It's not as if I burned anything. After a 30-year silence, the gloomy social theorist Philip Rieff is back with four books. $18.99 $25.00 Save 24% Current price is $18.99, Original price is $25. So not just her papers, but the books, too? The following year, she began sleeping with women and delighting in it. Yes, the library as well. Book critic Maureen Corrigan reviews Reborn: Journals & Notebooks, 1947 - 1963, the newly published intimate ruminations of Susan Sontag. She hoped that I and other people in her life would give her reason to hope. In 1938, while in China, Jack died, of tuberculosis, leaving Mildred with five-year-old Susan and two-year-old Judith to raise alone. A journalist who has frequented global hotspots and an analyst of humanitarian policy (as well as curator of the collected and posthumous writings of his mother, Susan Sontag), Rieff advances his. Copyright 2023 Salon.com, LLC. If she had survived the bone-marrow transplant (as she had survived the dire treatments for two earlier bouts of advanced cancer), would she have been reconciled to dying of something else later on? Rieff asks. Midway through the biography, he drops the mask of neutral observer and reveals himself to beyou could almost say comes out asan intellectual adversary of his subject. But she was one to whom it was just terrible news. She spoke a lot during her life about how horrified of cremation she was. But on the other hand, I'm a realist. 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